Comments on: Michael Who?

By: Diane Juhas

Diane Juhas — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 17:03:05 +0000

You’re going through the same issues that lesbian and gay partners experience, as far as not sure how to refer to eachother in varying situations. Most of it depends on familiarity, comfort level, and environment of the situation. I live in Boston, so, it’s becoming more of a non-issue up here.

By: Catherine

Catherine — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 19:27:04 +0000

Megan

I was wondering about the hurdles you had to go through with the FAA Flight Physical?

Catherine

>> Well, I haven’t done my new medical yet, but I wasn’t expecting a huge issue…. note that for the FAA, my *gender* isn’t changed, since I didn’t have GRS, and the meds I’m on aren’t disqualifying.

By: danielle

danielle — Wed, 21 May 2008 19:00:11 +0000

i just wanted to send you some intangible support. I’ve been talking to lots of people over the last couple of months, and a lot of them (me included) find it difficult to figure out how to address their relationships and their role in it when one half transitions. For my part, I was/am afraid people won’t see my girl as a woman and will think we’re a “straight” couple. A friend of mine is afraid to call herself “lesbian” once her partner transitioned from male to female. both of us just find it hard to let go of the identities we worked so hard to define for ourselves.
I wouldn’t imagine that would be any different for you, so I just wanted to send you support for your hesitations and that you’ll figure out what works best for you.
and I think it sucks to have to impersonate your old identity, but sometimes it’s just easier. I co-signed a loan with my girl and had to use her other name b/c – as she said, “it’s just easier than trying to explain it to them right now”. my sympathies.