I’m very grateful to have the support, encouragement and acceptance of my coworkers, and also grateful that as yet few people have tried to give me “girl lessons” (“Suzanne, girls don’t do that like X, they do it like Y.”). I see that all the time with many of my transgender friends, especially from wives and girlfriends.

It’s well-meaning, to be sure, and I wouldn’t take offense from the intention, but a part of me would be mortified, especially if someone pointed out something unfeminine about me in a meeting. I cringe at the thought.

I’m probably too sensitive about things like that. I fully recognize that. It comes from my own insecurities. You seem to be taking it more in stride, and seem (at least from what I’ve read so far of your blog) to be pretty comfortable with who you are. Good for you, hon!

And I think it’s great that your coworkers are comfortable enough with you to even joke around with you a bit about your transition. Microsoft sounds like a nice place to work.

All the best,
Suzanne