About M( )
Hello there… I’m currently going through my personal transition from male to female, and this is my blog (initially mostly for friends and family, but now pretty darn public) to describe the process….
Born Feb ’69 in Boston to John and Hilda, the third of three kids (two older sisters, Nancy and Sheila who are ten and eleven years older). We all lived in Abington, MA back then, but before I was 9, we’d lived in Huntington Harbor, NY, Alexandria, VA, Mystic, CT, then settled in North Kingstown, RI.
I had a pretty suburban, middle class childhood. And yes, I “knew” even back then.
I went to Bishop Hendricken High School (catholic, all boys – ironic now for two reasons – a) I’m an atheist b) Will no longer be a “boy” soon. This Thanksgiving is the 20th class reunion – wouldn’t that be deliciously fun?)
When I was 16, pretty much out of nowhere, my lungs collapsed, and I almost didn’t make it. That sucked.
After a year of recovering from that unfortunate detour, things got pretty much back to normal.
I went to college in lovely Worcester, MA (where they still make David Clark Aviation Headsets – personal fave) at WPI. I played volleyball, and worked as a dev. I often think that the working part was more important than the school part. My grades reflected that.
After college, I worked in Cambridge at “Intersolv” – which is no longer there. One of my favorite work stories of all time – Intersolv was a company formed by merging Index Technology (where I had worked) and Sage Software from Rockville, MD (look, Michael Stipe was right – do not, and I mean do not go back to Rockville).
Index was a typical PRC (People’s Republic of Cambridge) company. People centric, lots of characters, did the “right” thing. The culture clash between Index and Sage was just huge. In any case…. we have this big meeting in Cambridge to talk about the reorg. In this meeting, the new CEO is unveling the new name…. and we get “Intersolv”. He says:
“Intersolv… made up of two words – ‘Inter’ meaning ‘together’ and ‘solv’ meaning…. well, to solve.”
It went downhill from there.
Seven years later, just after getting married (first time), I got a job at Microsoft and hauled west.
In very typical Microsoft fashion, the group I got hired into got reorged in the six weeks between getting hired and when I came out to start. But, the reorged group was super cool – it was the “Trident” team, which was the new HTML rendering engine that was being built for Internet Explorer 4. I worked on IE from ’96 until 2001.
In ’98, our first child was born – “Peri”. Yes, just Peri – not short for anything. But, she is my little ‘winkle.
In 2000, child number two (only in birth order – websites are forever) was born – “John”. John’s knowlege of all things Star Wars puts me to shame.
I started flight lessons just as John was born, and got my Private, and then an Instrument rating. Flying is still a passion, and a great way to get away (literally, and figuratively).
In early 2002, unfortunately my marriage ended, and we went our separate ways.
After my time working on Internet Explorer (loved it), I worked on Windows Vista (yes, its good). One of the things my team did was the shiny glass borders on the windows….
In 2005, I was remarried – wow. Anh is amazing.
Last summer, just after we found out Anh was pregnant, my dad died. He had been on dialysis for a long time after a failed kidney transplant, and decided that he had enough. That was hard.
Earlier this year, Daniel – aka “Sandwich” was born.
Why Sandwich? Well, when we told Peri and John that they were going to have a sibling, Peri says:
“I think I will call the baby ‘It’, because I don’t know if its a boy or a girl.”
Us: “Ok, that sounds great Peri”
John: (with big grin) “I’m going to call it ‘Sandwich’!”
Us: “Uh, why John?”
John: “Because its funny!”
Sandwich (or Samwich, or The Sandwich, or Manwich) it is!
This summer we moved from the ‘burbs to the city at Anh’s request – and its been great (except for the commute).
Which brings us pretty much up to today. Still at Microsoft, still married, still have three kids, lots of stuff is the same. Except…