Comments on: FAQ

By: Mario

Mario — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 06:16:36 +0000

This is an amazing personal journey you’ve been on.
Thank You for the insight and for having the foresight to see this experience as something that could benefit others as well as yourself.
Is it a complement when someone tells you that you are interesting in every sense of the word? Because that would be an understatement as well.

I’m 18 years old and I am going to be a Freshman at the University of Washington. I have 1st time-experience-anxiety over going to college but now that I’ve read all that you’ve written, my worries are less concentrated on the risks and more in-tuned to my goals. (Not to say that I wasn’t less driven by optimism, haha.)

~Good tidings~

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Transgender News Note « Seattle University Law and Sexuality, Spring 2008 — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 21:03:52 +0000

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By: Cathy

Cathy — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 15:23:41 +0000

I saw you on GMA and Night Line earlier this week and was amazed by your story.I would like to ask you where a parent can go for help with a child believed to be having gender issues?

By: Aram

Aram — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 08:48:01 +0000

What about other surgeries? You just had your face and your breast done.

Megan>> Yes, thats all I’ve had, and all I plan to have. I’m in a (voluntary) surgery-free zone!

By: Jess

Jess — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 04:25:40 +0000

Hey Megan,

I commend you for your bravery through this adventure! It takes a lot of guts to take a stand for who you are – and it takes even more guts to broadcast it to the world and create a blog around it.

I’d love to chat through email!

Jess

By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 23:46:36 +0000

Thanks for your reply. I felt guilty for writing that no sooner than I hit “submit”. No doubt I really don’t understand the feeling of wanting to have a different gender, or how deep that goes. I’ll have to watch on ABC, and I do wish you (and Anh and kids) the best.

Megan>> No problem… I really do appreciate the comment – it was clearly thoughtful, and I have no problem with that at all. Our kids are awesome! We love em all, and one of the joys of my life is being a doting parent….

By: jennywocky

jennywocky — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 18:20:50 +0000

ha — I actually SAW that episode of Real People that you describe, Megan, it still sticks in my brain! The m2f was tall and skinny, with long dark hair, and the f2m was shorter with blondish hair (I think)… and it showed them going to the grocery store together in that clip. Weird. But it sticks in my mind, I think as with you, as one of the first exposures I got to the fact there were other people out there in the world who were dealing with what I was.

I like your comment about the “pointer” — how the name changes but it still all points to the same person. (People get very attached to the sign, the signifier, rather than to the signified.)

Yet it’s like you said, you are still changing as well. As the change commences, there is some level at which I feel like I had been playing a role… and yet parts of that role were still me, it wasn’t all a complete fabrication, and it was me doing my best to make life work at the time.

It’s kind of hard to separate it all. All these different people are you, even as your inner sense of self might remain coherent at some level. So hard to explain why the change is necessary sometimes, it’s simply not so easily packaged.

By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 17:04:30 +0000

Call me judgmental (go ahead…it’s something you have to live with if you’re going to hang a private story out in the open), but here’s what I find odd–you decided it was time for a sex change when you had a 2 month old baby. It strikes me as sad (for the baby, for you) that the baby didn’t fill you up. Also sad for your wife to have her attention diverted from baby to you. All that attention paid to surgery and not to the miraculous new little person! Hello?

Megan>> I’d never say you were judgmental. However, if you read the blog, or talk to anyone that knows me, Anh or Samwich I think you will see that we both are attentive, smitten parents who absolutely love him. I talk about him all the time in the blog, and he occupies a huge amount of my headspace. This is not even to mention Peri and John, who are awesome as well (no less so)…. believe me, this trans thing, even though its a big part of the “story” today is not what our lives are about….

By: Vicki

Vicki — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 23:28:33 +0000

You are welcome for the praise Megan. Yes I think you should include Anh’ feelings and comments in the Anh sez. Wish You could post a Email address so I could write you to ask some questions. It sounds like Washington is much more Transgender friendly than Maine

Megan>> I am very interested to see in our travels if we notice a difference in how we are treated that seems systemic… We haven’t noticed a difference so far, but we’ve been to San Francisco, San Jose, Seattle, Las Vegas and now Boston.

As for how to contact me, all comments go to me first. I do get info on the provided email address. If you ask me not to post the comment, but just to reply privately I will.

By: Vicki

Vicki — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 00:20:43 +0000

Megan you are beautiful. I think you are extermely lucky to have such an understanding wife. Can’t wait for more info on your blog

Megan>> Why thank you Vicki, although you did make me blush on the first part!

As for Anh, well, she’s amazing. I feel so fortunate to be spending my life with her!